Picture Supply: Lauren Wade
Typically, Elyse Myers simply must take a break from her face. Not in a foul approach, however if you spend hours filming and enhancing movies of your self, just like the comic does for her TikTok account of 5.6 million followers, gazing your face for that lengthy can begin to really feel “actually unnatural,” Myers tells POPSUGAR. “For a human being to have that a lot details about what they seem like from each angle . . . your mind’s not meant for it!”
At this level, Myers’s face is pretty recognizable to anybody who spends time on TikTok. You might need seen her video recounting her worst date of all time (she purchased the man 100 tacos, which they ate in silence at his kitchen desk) or the one the place she met her childhood crush, Lance Bass. The tales she shares are quirky, awkward, hilarious, and designed to make you snigger out loud whereas concurrently cringing from secondhand embarrassment. But it surely’s Myers’s supply that basically sells it: earnest, deadpan, vast eyes locked on the digital camera. Many movies are absolutely face-to-camera with minimal cuts, and the mix of filming and enhancing equates to hours of dissecting her personal look.
For her personal mental health, the 29-year-old comic has began instituting “face breaks” — i.e., making movies that do not function her picture — when it will get to be an excessive amount of. That is additionally why Myers does not enterprise into the wilderness of her remark part too typically. Typically, she says, the constructive feedback are inclined to float to the highest, in order that’s the place she stays. “That is the neighborhood that loves you, that helps you, that desires to construct you up,” she explains. “So long as you do not go searching for ache down within the depths of your feedback, you may be OK.”
Discovering TikTok in a “Low Season”
In her sudden new life as a social media star, Myers has gotten fairly good at creating boundaries for the sake of her psychological well being. She initially received into TikTok after the start of her son when, as Myers describes it, she was going via a “off-season” along with her psychological well being.
“I used to be sort of discovering a strategy to get again to myself, mentally,” she says. Unable to get again into her “inventive rhythm” via her normal shops like inventive writing and songwriting, Myers began making movies within the morning earlier than beginning her day job as an online developer. Nearly instantly, she discovered an viewers who resonated along with her humorous, genuine storytelling. Her objective: to make movies for individuals like her, caught in a troublesome psychological state of affairs and needing a brilliant spot of their day. “It wasn’t heavy; it was only a foolish story that allowed them to . . . have fun and transfer on,” she says. “Opening my life up in that approach healed me out of that season but in addition . . . introduced 1,000,000 different individuals together with me in a approach that I by no means may’ve actually imagined after I began making the movies.”
“Do It Scared”
Now that she’s a full-time comic on TikTok, psychological well being has continued to be a focus for Myers’s content material. Apart from entertaining individuals, a relentless theme in Myers’s movies is psychological well being, a lot of it stemming from her personal journey with anxiety and depression.
As a baby, Myers says, she struggled to manage her feelings and really feel “baseline regular” in comparison with the children round her. “I’d get actually anxious, after which I’d have days after I simply did not wish to go to high school,” she says. It felt like she was drained, Myers remembers, but it surely clearly wasn’t simply fatigue.
Myers’s household linked her with psychological well being professionals, and at a younger age, she discovered she was combating nervousness and despair. As she received older, she began to study which conditions set off it: being round massive teams of individuals, which made her really feel like she could not communicate up or specific herself; and dealing herself into burnout by not prioritizing relaxation.
In January, Myers grew to become a full-time content material creator, which comes with its personal psychological well being challenges. Public speaking can set off her nervousness, and but she now creates movies for an enormous viewers, which frequently quantity within the thousands and thousands. How does she make it work? “It is simpler to inform a narrative and publish it and have it’s seen by individuals as a result of I am not in entrance of them,” Myers explains. “Actually, it is just like the best-case situation for someone who struggles with nerves in entrance of individuals. Creating content material on-line is the simplest strategy to do it. You may ship that info out into the world with out ever having to actually work together with individuals’s faces and eyeballs.”
She’s additionally realized that she does not must really feel 100% assured and fearless to do scary issues, like leaping headfirst into a brand new profession. “I simply sort of found out I may do it scared,” she says. “I adopted that precept actually early on in life the place, like, you are gonna be nervous whilst you’re doing it, however you are simply gonna do it scared, and seems, it nonetheless works.”
Studying to Love Her Physique
Coming into a career that is so picture targeted additionally presents one other sort of problem. Myers has been open about her journey with physique picture on her channels, and it is one thing she says she was aware of at an early age. “I used to be simply very conscious of how I appeared and what that meant for me,” she says. “I used to be conscious of the scale of my physique earlier than I ever discovered the right way to find it irresistible.”
She finally sought remedy and says the journey towards physique acceptance actually progressed when she grew to become an grownup. “I’ve by no means been in a greater place than I’m proper now,” Myers says.
That is to not say that maintaining her positive mindset round physique picture is simple, Myers says. It helps, although, that her total neighborhood is extraordinarily variety. “It is simply stunning,” she says. “Individuals are simply so variety.”
As for the uncalled-for feedback about her look and physique, Myers says, “I’ve to let myself have some area from individuals’s opinions. I imply, I may verify each worry I’ve by simply studying via my feedback, if I actually wished to. However I simply do not have the time for that. I will not be efficient as a content material creator or as an individual if I simply fill my mind with that a lot info.”
Face breaks, avoiding destructive feedback, “doing it scared,” logging off at 4:30 p.m. every single day to do bathtub time along with her son — speaking with Myers is like getting a toolkit for sustaining psychological well being if you’re perpetually on-line. These boundaries, instruments, and coping mechanisms are all designed to assist her keep away from burnout and keep her ardour for what she does, as a result of she says she loves her job. “I wish to do that without end,” she says.
Possibly not essentially making TikTok movies without end — though Myers actually discovered her reward for storytelling on that platform — however working a enterprise, writing, and being a inventive skilled. Myers says she’s engaged on a TV present and a guide, and her new podcast with Lemonada Media and Powderkeg Media, “Funny Cuz It’s True,” launched at this time. In it, Myers sits down with comedians, popular culture icons, and “simply individuals I feel are actually humorous” to have conversations about awkward issues they’ve completed that, for one purpose or one other, they can not cease reliving. It is a pure match, since that is a supply of inspiration Myers has tapped for her personal movies. “It simply makes these individuals who I am speaking to, who in any other case would really feel very unapproachable, very approachable and really regular,” she says. “I feel that is actually stunning, and I feel that we need to have more of that from individuals within the highlight.”
Myers hopes to make psychological well being simply as approachable by seamlessly working it into each dialog and video. In that approach, she hopes to make psychological well being a traditional factor to speak about every day. “I feel the extra that we are able to simply weave it into our regular life, the better will probably be . . . to open up about it,” she says. “I simply wish to discuss it in a approach that feels so not-a-big-deal that it is like respiratory.”